Come Uppance

At last! I have reported my former employer to the State and Federal powers that be regarding the following:


1. They deliberately pay their employees incorrectly when they have worked overtime, even though they approved it in advance and the employee worked it. This forces the employee to have to wait until another pay period for their overtime pay.

2. They deliberately pay their employees the wrong hourly wage (a lesser wage).

3. They require employees to attend mandatory staff meetings, and do not pay them for their time spent in the meetings.

4. There is constant mental abuse to employees on a regular basis, including the use of profanity, creating a hostile work environment for many employees.

4. They discriminate based on religion and race, as well as against people who are overweight. Management allows certain employees to send out offensive, discriminatory e-mails regarding religion and race.

5. One employee threatened to kill another and nothing was done about it. Rather, the person who informed the employee whose life had been threatened was told she was going to be written up and have a derogatory item placed in her personnel file if she mentioned it again.

6. Employees are not given evaluations timely, if at all, and are told that no raises are retroactive. Employees have to insist on evaluations repeatedly before they are done.

7. Management puts derogatory items in employees personnel files without notifying the employee.

8. Employees are denied timely access to personnel files.

9. Employees are penalized for taking time off for deaths in the family.

10. Several employees have had their paychecks bounce on repeated occasions, and when they complain about it they are told it is the fault of their personal bank and they need to change banks.

11. Management has physically put their hands on employees in an abusive manner.

12. There is a subcontracted social worker that Progressive uses and he has on many occasions sexually harassed employees. It happened to me and I had to make 4 complaints before any action was taken. After the HR person talked to him, he attempted the very next day to intimidate me.

Some people are about to get their come uppance!!

MWAHAHAHAHAA!!!!

The Difference Between Moral Support and Enabling

I have to say that I am a little annoyed.

Why is it that people think that because I am their friend I must enable them and lie to them so that they can feel validated about continuing on with their self-defeating habits and lifestyles? Seriously, people, I don't care! Live your life how you please! Just don't expect me to agree that you are making the best choices when I don't. It's not judgment - it's disagreement. There is a big difference.

I am more than happy to be there for you and be a listening ear. I will listen patiently after you drunk dial me and while you blather on in your slurred words and blubbering voice. I will do everything I can to make you feel better about yourself if I know you are feeling down (if you don't tell me you're down then don't get mad at me that I didn't know). I will do all I possibly can to provide help for you if you need it and are willing to help yourself. I will defend you fiercely to others when they say unkind things about you. THAT is moral support.

Just remember that part of friendship is allowing me express my opinion as well. If you are constantly talking to me about how miserable your lives are, then expect me to voice an opinion now and then. I think for all of what I have stated above that I have earned the right to do so. Otherwise it's a one way street and not a friendship at all. If that upsets you, complain to someone else because even I have my limits. Even I should have the right to lose patience now and then - I am human just like everybody else. You should also know by now that if you are going to ask me a question, be sure you really want to know the answer because I WILL be honest.That is my nature. I will no longer try to disguise it for others.

Furthermore, just because my opinion on a specific matter may seem harsh to you, does not mean that I do not love you or value your friendship. Just because I think you may be in the wrong in a particular situation does not mean that I think you are wrong in every situation. Just because I think that a particular action on your part was foolish, doesn't mean I believe you are a fool.

Friends are supposed to be loyal and compassionate and fun. We are supposed to have each others backs when times are good and times are bad. We are supposed to be honest with each other when we ask a question. Not unkind, but honest. Whether the question is "Does my butt look big in these pants?" or "Do you think I am in the wrong here?"

We deserve that much from our friends at least.

Life is Good!

It seems for the first time in a very long time that my life is going really, really well! I have lost 27 lbs since March 18th. My hours got increased at work (while others around the country are getting their hours cut or losing their jobs completely). I have a second job that provides me with extra money and has a very convenient and flexible schedule. I finally have gotten my finances in order.

I am so happy! I am so grateful for how things are going for me right now. At last the negativity and drama that has been so prevalent in my life during the past several years is gone!

Life is good!

Lessons

It seems that every time I turn around there is an opportunity for me to learn. For me to evolve spiritually, so to speak. This particular lesson keeps presenting itself repeatedly - so it appears it is one I really need to learn.

I am a very passionate, opinionated, hot-tempered person. I am also very sensitive and compassionate. Unfortunately, this leads me to make what are oftentimes unwise decisions. I try to resolve difficulties in the best way I know how (without completely abandoning my own beliefs, opinions, and pride), when I should have just left the situation alone in the first place. My heart is usually in the right place. Ultimately, however, I usually end up making the situation far worse that it would have been otherwise.

When will I ever learn to just step back and let it be? Time will resolve most things. If I would just learn to be a little more patient.

Exercise!

Yesterday I rode my bike to and from work. Then I walked on my morning break for 15 minutes, my lunch break for 30 minutes, went rollerblading for 30 minutes after work, and last but not least I went for an hour and fifteen minute walk with my friend Leana. WOO HOO! I love exercise, especially when it is this gorgeous outside!

I'm kind of bummed that as of this weekend it's supposed to get rainy and icky again. Ah, well. This too shall pass, and when it does, I'll be outside again! At least I have one more day (today) to enjoy the sun!!

Summertime

Approaches, it seems! It is 82 degrees out there and I LOVE it! Though, only one more day of this and then we have another week of off and on rain. That's ok though, because after that it should stay pretty nice and warm, and I can't wait!

Mars Retrograde

Dude, what is UP with people lately? Is everyone really this hypersensitive, or are they being just plain combative? Is expressing an honest opinion or pointing out my knowledge of certain facts really that upsetting?

Stop and ask yourselves why a friend would deliberately say things that are hurtful, or snotty, or irritating. Maybe they wouldn't. Maybe they are just making conversation, and it's being misunderstood. Instead of responding in sarcastic and/or sneaky manner, why not just be direct and ask a person what they meant by their comment or where they gained knowledge of a certain matter? Even a response of "Yeah, well, who cares?" would be preferable. Why is it necessary to immediately assume there are rude or smartass intentions and motives there that aren't? It seems to me that people are either reacting without thinking, or are over-thinking things completely.

What does a snide attitude do to benefit anything other than a person's own ego?

In the meantime, I am going to keep my mouth shut and my fingers off the keyboard until this - whatever it is that is making people so grumpy has passed. Or, until whatever it is that is making my e-mails, comments, posts, conversations seem so offensive or hypercritical passes.

Good grief!